I have learned a few things over the years.
PROBLEM: Elbo's getting slam dunked into the table top.
SOLUTION: Set up your rest so that you can hang your elbo's off the back of the bench. Rest your forarms on the bench. Works great for me, and takes care of the problem.
PROBLEM: Heavy Recoil
SOLUTION: Reload, or have someone reload for you. As Greg said turn it down for practice. If you are just starting with a heavy recoiling gun, start with reduced loads and work up over a period of time. Do some research on how to equip your handgun to make it manageable. Grips, Muzzle Break, etc.
I have owned several S&W 44 magnums over the years. I never did like shooting any of them with full power ammo. Recoil was always severe with full power loads. I never did have any grips on one that did not let your finger get cracked by the trigger guard.
I now have a Super RedHawk. I did some research on this site and found that a set of Hogue TAMER Grips would help on recoil. That was real solid advice. The TAMER Grips really soak up recoil. I can now shoot full power ammo in a 44 with no problems at all.
I have TAMER grips on one of my 480's and will get them on the other with my next order to Midway or Mid South. The TAMER grips make the 480 a lot more pleasant to shoot also. I came up with my carry load for the 480, a 400 grain lead bullet over 7.0 grains of Unique for 800 fps. This pussycat load is not bad at all, and will not ring my ears if I am in a rush, and do not get my ear plugs in. I shot my second 480 with factory grips then switched to the Hogue TAMER grips. Big difference in felt recoil.
Now if Hogue would get some TAMER grips out for the Contender and Encore. I would think there would be enough Contenders out their to make that a doable investment for Hogue. I would swap the Pachmayr grips for Hogue Tamers on both of my Contenders as soon as available if Hogue would make them.
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